Self Portrait


Girl vs Woman

What is this thing differentiating a girl and a woman? Well, this has something to do with maturity. Others (the internet, friends, other human beings, etc.) say that a “girl” is not mature enough because of her actions, but once she grows, she matures into a “woman”. I really don’t see the need to put it in class because I believe that maturity is not a thing to be really measured. Sure, you can say that when a “girl” does not whine anymore or not be annoying anymore, she is starting to become a “woman”. But can a “woman” not whine or be annoying or immature? I think that even though a “woman” is sophisticated and classy enough, she can still be as annoying and immature. And then what? When she becomes overreacting, the world has the right to take away the title of being a “woman”?

One time, I was referred as a “woman” in one of my class discussion. I wouldn’t be bothered if this guy referred to me as a lady or as a girl, but then I heard a side comment that I am not yet a “woman” and that I am still a “girl”. After class, I thought about it. Why am I not passable as a “woman”? Why did someone believe that I am still a “girl”? I know for a fact that I appear younger than my real age and basing from the way I dress, I don’t dress corporate. So because of those physical reasons (which I really think the reason that person commented because we’re not close), somebody concluded, somebody decided that I am not a “woman”. I’ve had my moments of maturity and immaturity, but that does not really define me. Though maybe the world thinks differently.

What should a “woman” be? Should she be always walking in high heels and dressed maturely (I don’t even know how one maturely dresses). Should a “woman” always be found in restaurants drinking wine? Or should a “woman” be a founder of some advocacy? What? Should a “woman” always talk of sophisticated things or intellectual things or be on a spree of being a hero to the world? Somebody tell me please.

I don’t like that people associate the word ‘mature’ to the word ‘woman’. I think that being mature is not based on the way you dress though it can be a factor. Maturity is really not something to be measured because one may find one thing mature, but other may find it immature. Mature, immature, people do not need to be classified as either. People need to be respected. Being mature cannot really be defined. You just understand when you see one.

What Women Really Are

This world has set a standard of what is beautiful or perfect, what’s too much and what’s not enough. And it might be the reason why women develop insecurities. Advertisements tell us what’s hot and what’s not. Beauty pageants judge ladies based on their criteria. Ladies call each other fat or skinny when they want to hurt other’s feelings.

We, therefore, are having a hard time believing that we are, in our own way, beautiful and unique and funny and awesome and the list goes on. It’s hard for us to look highly or even just think highly of ourselves because the confidence we have is being shattered by the standards of the world. We then begin to follow the world.

We become what the world thinks is perfect, or smart, or whatever. And when we can’t become what the world wants us to become, we begin to hate ourselves WHICH IS TOTALLY WRONG! We are not born to hate, but to love and that includes loving ourselves. Our worth is more than the standards of this world. And so our eyes must be opened so we can see who we really are.

I’d like to share this video about how we, mighty women of this world, should see ourselves.

Women are awesome, don’t you forget!